Just because you feel guilty, doesn’t mean you are guilty. That’s the most important bit of information that any working mum needs to absorb.
If you know that going back to work after having children is the right decision for you and your family, you can rest assured that you’ve made the choice. But even mums who are confident in their decision to return to work after having a child still struggle with working mum’s guilt. If you’re battling working mum’s guilt, here are 5 tips to help you win the battle.
Take time for you.
If your needs aren’t met you won’t be able to meet the needs of those that need you most. Set your alarm to wake up 30 minutes before everyone else in house so you can enjoy your morning shower and cup of coffee in peace. Whether it is grabbing a café mocha at your favourite coffee place, going to dinner with a friend, getting a pedicure or reading a favourite book, schedule in time each day, week and month for you.
Secure and maintain quality child care.
Knowing that your children are in the best hands while you’re at work will give you the confidence you need to be productive while you’re away. Take time to get to know who is caring for your kids and develop a relationship with your child care provider.
Delegate, delegate, delegate.
Assign tasks to others when you can. Perhaps you can’t afford to hire a full-time housekeeper, but you can afford to have someone come in once a week to do the ironing. Consider what tasks you can delegate to others so you can have more time in your day for your family.
Establish your momtourage.
Become familiar with the people, places and things in your community that can make your life easier. Do your grocery shopping online after the kids go to bed and have it delivered. Choose a drycleaner that picks up and drops off. The less time you have to spend on tasks, the more time you have to spend with your family.
Manage your expectations.
You can’t be all things to all people. Once you’re able to grasp your limitations, you’re better able to manage your expectations. Perhaps you can’t be the weekly classroom volunteer, but you may be able to be the snack mum or assist the teacher in other ways.
The truth is all mums, working or not, will at some time or another experience mummy guilt. It’s mummy...sial! The key is to manage it so that you can evaluate your choices based on what’s best for your family.