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How Your Diet Affects Your Daughter

altAs mums, we often try to instill our beliefs and standards onto our children, with our goal being to ensure that our children learn from the benefit of our knowledge and experience so that they can create enriching, rewarding lives for themselves. So why is it then that one of the most significant messages mums often pass on to their daughters is the legacy of…dieting?

Every mum wants the best for her children; there is no question about that. But unfortunately, when a mum lives through the emotional and physical pain that her overweight body may cause, she unknowingly passes the “right to diet” on as though it were a “right of passage” into womanhood. Maybe the mum wants to prevent her daughter from suffering from a low self-esteem. Maybe the mum wants to ensure that her daughter is spared the harsh judgment from others as a result of excess weight. Finally, maybe the mum regrets not having the confidence to pursue a goal or dream and wants to make sure her daughter doesn’t pass up similar opportunities.

While these goals are driven by the desire to protect and fueled with the power of love, often the greatest message that comes across is that when the daughter is ready, she’ll learn to diet just like her mum. Of course it’s not intentional but this is the “diet legacy” a mum will often pass on to her daughter. So, if this isn’t our intention, how can we teach our daughters the benefits of health and wellness without teaching them how to “diet?”

The first thing we need to do is stop dieting ourselves. We need to recognise the example we’re setting and understand that if it’s not one that benefits our daughters or ourselves, it’s worth changing. By getting rid of our own “diet mentality” we’re taking the first step to setting a better example for our children.

We also need to understand that we are our children’s greatest role models. They watch, learn and copy our behaviours and actions. If we’re berating ourselves for the way we look, we can only expect that our daughters will learn to do the same. If we fear certain foods because of the feeling of powerlessness we feel when we eat them, we’re teaching our daughters to feel that fear as well. Finally, if we’ve spent decades battling an unhealthy relationship with food, we can easily pass along this same relationship on to our children if we’re not careful.

It may be time to change this way of thinking in order to finally give up dieting in exchange for lasting lifestyle changes and learn how to create a healthy relationship with food. As mums, we have so many wonderful ideas we want to pass along to our children. Dieting and the pain it causes doesn’t have to be one of them