It took me years to get pregnant with my second child, and let me tell you, trying to conceive can really take all the sexiness out of sex. When you’re so focused on ovulation monitors, basal body temperature, and cervical mucus (need I say more?), it’s easy to forget that getting busy is supposed to be pleasurable. Instead, sex — that thing that used to drive you wild — becomes a chore that falls somewhere between emptying the dishwasher and folding the laundry.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. If you want to bring the sexy back while trying to get pregnant, why not try some new positions? “The more relaxed and stress-free a couple can be when trying to conceive, the better,” says Dr Jessica Schneider, a board-certified obstetrician and gynecologist in Los Angeles. “So if new positions help them relax and have fun, they should try them.”
And although no study exists to prove which positions (if any) are the best sex positions for conception, there are some unscientific theories about why these seven maneuvers could help you get pregnant more quickly. Why not test one out tonight?
1. CAT (Coital Alignment Technique)
We’ve all tried the missionary position, but this variation takes it the next level and nearly guarantees an orgasm. You lay on your back and he enters from above, positioning himself high up on your body, with his chest near your shoulders. (If you’re short and he’s tall, you probably won’t be seeing eye to eye.) You’ll know you’re aligned correctly when his pelvis provides consistent clitoral stimulation. And instead of thrusting so hard he slams you into the headboard, this move requires a slow grind you are sure to enjoy.
Why CAT could help you conceive: Gravity! His sperm can just slide into home plate.
2. Doggie Style
Follow your animal instincts and kneel on all fours, with your booty in the air and your torso angled down towards the bed. He’ll enter you from behind while kneeling or standing, leaving his hands free to visit your favourite erogenous zones. Once he’s in, you can let him set the pace, or back that a*s up at your own speed!
Why Doggie Style could help you conceive: Deep penetration could get his sperm closer to its destination.
3. Legs on Shoulders
If you enjoy the deep penetration of doggie style, but prefer to look into your partner’s eyes while doing the deed, this one might be for you. Have him stand up facing the bed. Wiggle your bum down to the edge of the mattress and toss your legs up over his shoulders. (He will really love this move if he’s into feet, as many dudes are.) You can balance yourself with your arms, and even grab his butt to pull him deeper into you.
Why Legs on Shoulders could help you conceive: Some people believe that raising your legs in the air after sex can improve your chances of getting pregnant. With this position, you’re already there!
4. Sexy Scissors
This position sounds way more dangerous than it is. Start by laying on your sides, facing each other. Throw your top leg over his hip, and slide your bottom leg in between his, like scissors. Clasp hands and look deeply into each other’s eyes for a sensual embrace. Scissoring is both romantic and satisfying, since you get a lot of friction in all the right spots.
Why Sexy Scissors could help you conceive: It brings pleasure without much exertion — perfect for those nights when you’re ovulating, but so damn tired.
In the basic version, he sits upright and you climb on top facing him, wrapping your legs around his waist like a very aggressive lap dancer. Now lock and load. Feeling adventurous (and athletic)? Have him bend his knees and lift his hips into the air while you hoist your legs onto his shoulders. Just try not to fall, OK?
Why Wraparound could help you conceive: Let’s say you’re ovulating in the middle of the work day and there’s no bed in sight. The basic position can be managed on a chair or couch, so you can do it almost anywhere — even the office. Now that’s saucy!
6. Reverse Cowgirl
Get ready for the ride of your life when you mount his prone body while facing his feet. He will love the view, and you can control the action. With a little practice, you can learn to swivel your body from reverse cowgirl to a forward facing woman-on-top position without breaking contact. Cowboy boots are optional, but recommended.
Why Reverse Cowgirl could help you conceive: The angle of entry is totally different from the other positions. Maybe that’s the trick your uterus has been waiting for.
7. Side Position
In this relaxing position, both of you lay on your sides, nestled like spoons, and he enters you from behind. His body won’t be providing direct clitoral stimulation, so let his fingers do the walking. Since most women orgasm more easily with manual stimulation in the mix, this position is rewarding for everybody involved.
Why Spooning could help you conceive: A recent study suggests that the contractions from an orgasm may help suck the semen up through the cervix.
More help if you’re trying to conceive:
- 7 Surprisingly Simple Sex Tips to Help You Conceive Quicker
- 21 Lesser-Known Ways to Boost Your Fertility
- 11 Signs of Pregnancy You’ve Never Heard Before
Illustrations: Amalia DeGirolamo